People dramatically underestimate the opportunity cost of maintaining friendships
Every brunch is a mortgage payment on your own time.
This hill is unclaimed. Nobody is willing to die on it. Yet. First blood pending.
- Pay, and you hold it.
- Anyone can dethrone you for more.
- Every claim stays on the record.
No claims on the record.
The other side
A Tuesday dinner that runs three hours, then the same friend driving across town at midnight when a parent is dying. That call comes because of the dinners. No time ledger prices it. People already feel the hours adding up and go anyway, because the hoarded evening rarely becomes the novel. It becomes scrolling.
Tell me when this hill changes hands.
One email per change of hands. Unsubscribe link in every one.
Adjacent hills to die on
"Don't shit where you eat" is some of the worst dating advice
A relationship based on convenience is better than the true-love ideal
Living with your parents as an adult shouldn't be stigmatized
Saying "I don't like kids" is an acceptable phrase
Emotional affairs hurt more than physical ones
Marriage should come before children
More relationships hills, all of them, or find one worth $1 of your convictions.