Men should always make the first move
This hill is unclaimed. Nobody is willing to die on it. Yet. First blood pending.
- Pay, and you hold it.
- Anyone can dethrone you for more.
- Every claim stays on the record.
No claims on the record.
The other side
The convention hardened when women had no money of their own and a rejected approach could cost a reputation. Deference was protection. That machinery is gone, and the rule now leaves interested people waiting on someone who never noticed. Attraction is not visible from across a room. Anyone who wants the conversation can start it, and the shy of either sort get a fair chance.
Tell me when this hill changes hands.
One email per change of hands. Unsubscribe link in every one.
Adjacent hills to die on
Being bothered by a higher-earning partner is a red flag
Refusing to get a pet is a valid dealbreaker
Love at first sight is real, not lust
Every friendship is transactional at its core
Soulmates are a destructive romantic myth
Daily good morning texts beat any grand romantic gesture
More relationships hills, all of them, or find one worth $1 of your convictions.